The same painful patterns keep playing out. They can be understood
Whether it's a partner, a parent, a child or a friend — when our closest relationships hurt, everything hurts. This is individual counselling to understand what's happening, and why, with compassion rather than blame.
Compassion, not blame.
Why we get stuck with the people we love
Many of our struggles in relationships have roots in early experiences and attachments. The ways we learned to stay safe and connected as children often follow us into adult life — sometimes helpfully, sometimes painfully.
Understanding those patterns with curiosity, rather than judging yourself for them, can be profoundly freeing. It changes what feels possible.
What we'd explore together
We look at what keeps repeating: the arguments that go in circles, the distance that creeps in, the people-pleasing, the difficulty trusting or being truly known. We notice what your body does in those moments, too — connection and protection are nervous-system events as much as conversations.
This is one-to-one work. You don't need your partner or family member to come — change in one person genuinely shifts a relationship.
For those who hold relationships together
Many of my clients are the ones everyone else leans on. If you've lost yourself in keeping everyone else okay, this is a space where, for one hour a week, the relationship that matters is the one with yourself.
Where and how we'd work
Sessions are 50 minutes and cost £55, with concessions sometimes available. We can meet in person in a peaceful farm setting near Ash in East Kent (between Canterbury and Sandwich, easy to reach from Deal, Dover and Thanet), at Lighthouse43 in Folkestone, or online, wherever you are. It always starts with a free, no-pressure 20-minute call.